The End Goal


SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER

We’d love to hear your suggestions for topics. What questions do you have? Let us research it!

1set goals blog

The End Goal

Sylvia Mccrory
April 2020

 

For most of us, when we first become parents, we are so enamored with this precious blessing from God, this miracle that is our newborn baby, that we don’t look too far into the future wondering what they will grow up to be.  But later, as our children age, we begin to think of the future. Here are some goals, I encourage you and your spouse to discuss and try to agree on, to be consistent with your parenting.

Set 4 Goals

Spiritual Goal

Educational Goal

Family Goal

Social Goal

It is worth the time to discuss these four goals; this will reveal a lot about each of you and why one parent may put pressure on children in one area while the other parent is strict about another goal.  Having different goals for our children can lead to inconsistent parenting. A child may hear one message from one parent and quite a different message from the other parent. Not only is this confusing for the child, it creates a path for the child to begin to manipulate one parent against the other.  I would encourage you to write down your goals and revisit them from time to time. Also, know your goals will change or even become finer tuned as we examine parenting in the 21st Century. 

Love Yourself

 

Now is the time to get away from social media and those parents who post pictures of their perfect family and tell stories of their perfect children.  The most important thing you need to know: That is not real life.  They are sharing only the good things.  While these may be true, there are other stories that aren’t so happy, or so perfect.  No one lives a life free of pain and disappointment.  

“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace.  In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” John 16:33 (NIV)

Jesus has told us our life will be hard on earth.  Christians are not of this world; our home is in Heaven.  Do not be envious of your friends who paint a picture of an easy life, our rewards are in Heaven.  

         Forgive Yourself

 

Every parent makes mistakes, every parent makes wrong decisions.  You are not alone when you mess up. We all do. When your decisions are based on what you think is best for your child today, then you are making the right decision.  

There may be times when our children become adults, they tell us how they were harmed by a decision we made when they were young.  Try to explain you were doing what you felt was the right thing at the time. Then, FORGIVE YOURSELF.  No one has a crystal ball to see into the future, only God knows the future, our children will recover from our mistakes.  Never hesitate to turn to pray for answers. God is our strength and refuge during troubled times.  

SUBSCRIBE TO OUR NEWSLETTER

We’d love to hear your suggestions for topics. What questions do you have? Let us research it!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.