Saying NO to Your Child

Sylvia McCrory / 2020

Parents want to be friends with their children today.  A good relationship with our children is vital, but we do not need to be their friends, we are given the responsibility of being their parents. Children need us to be parents more, they need us to set boundaries, to let them know when something is wrong, to be the bad guy when they need to say “no” to their friends.  

The culture of parenting has changed over the last decade.  We find ourselves competing for everything on behalf of our children.  We want them to have the best of what is available, whether it is an electronic device or an educational program. 

 It is easy for us to watch commercials of new products that are almost certain to make our children smarter, or brighter, or give them an advantage over other children.  In these commercials, we are told how students are falling behind other countries, that it is of utmost importance for parents to buy the product now. 


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The culture of parenting has changed over the last decade.  We find ourselves competing for everything on behalf of our children.  We want them to have the best of what is available, whether it is an electronic device or an educational program. 

 It is easy for us to watch commercials of new products that are almost certain to make our children smarter, or brighter, or give them an advantage over other children.  In these commercials, we are told how students are falling behind other countries, that it is of utmost importance for parents to buy the product now. 

 Some parents talk to their peers who brag about how their young children are brighter, are more advanced, more intelligent than other children their age.  Other parents hear tales from family members, making them think their children are somehow inferior.

Whatever the source of information, almost all parents are given a steady diet of hearing their children must “KEEP UP” or they will be left behind.  The demand for parents to have the latest in technology, in educational tools, or athletic equipment is astounding.  It takes a strong parent, with confidence in themselves to stand up to all the pressures surrounding them.  The irony of all this is the information is misleading, and often incorrect. Advertisers will go to great lengths to sell products, when what children need is time with parents and family, time to be creative, but mostly time to just be children.

Our children do not need more gadgets, more technology, more devices, quite the opposite, they need more of us, more of our time, more of our attention.  Our children need to be given the love and support to grow as God sees fit, not as the world sees fit.  

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