Compassion/judgment-free zone–never tell your child that they should not feel the way they are feeling. This belittles the anxiety they feel and indicates they should be ashamed. Always present yourself with kindness, compassion, and a loving heart. Listen. Start by asking your child to tell you about their feelings. Then listen. Don’t interrupt. Just listen. Once your child knows the/she can trust you with feelings, then you will be trusted to help.
Physicians/therapists–there is a terrible stigma associated with mental health. If your child is having difficulty developing coping skills, even with your assistance, it is time to get a doctor involved. Therapy is not a bad thing. It is not shameful. For some children, it will be the source of coping skills. This is essential in having a healthy, happy child.
Prayer–teach your child to go to God in prayer with their worries and fear, as well as to thank Him for blessings. Pray with them so they know the structure of prayer and that God can be approached both in reverence and in love.
Every year, more and more children are diagnosed with anxiety. Most everyone worries and distresses over certain things, which is completely normal. It’s up to us, as parents, mentors, and leaders to model good coping skills for our children. Children take cues from you. If you are anxious, they are anxious. If you are playful, they are playful. Remember, the way you present yourself in times of stress are extremely important. Practice a calm demeanor. Don’t hesitate to explain anxiety to your children when you are in a stressful situation. Sometimes just knowing the “why” behind feelings and knowing they are not alone is enough to develop your child’s coping skills.
Thanks for sharing, this is so needed today for every parent to read I am not a parent, but I do see what is going on in the world today with our kids, and it is not good.
Wishing you much success. Keep up the good work!!!! MB/BB