How FEAR Keeps Us From Being Great Parents

We, as parents, want to do everything right when it comes to our children. We want the best education, the best clothes, the best experiences, in fact, we want the best life has to offer. But FEAR holds us back.

If you ask any parent, most will not even think of themselves as fearful, when it comes to parenting, unless it is dealing with safety. But the truth is we are fearful, and usually we fear the wrong things.

Things parents fear:

  • Our children feeling like they do not belong
  • Making the wrong decision about the future for our children
  • Our children not succeeding
  • Being different, or our children being different
  • Our children being bullied

We need to consider; we are fearful of the wrong things. If you look at statistics and research, we will find, today we have more children with depression, committing suicide, sexually active at younger ages, using provocative and repulsive language, and the list goes on.

The world is changing rapidly, the morals and values of society have reached new lows. Things that would have been considered unspeakable in times past, are now paraded, and included in most households. And just so you don’t get the wrong idea, I am not specifically thinking of one particular aspect of our society. I refuse to judge anyone or condemn anyone. My goal is to protect children from lude behavior appearing normal.

Children are exposed to sex, alcohol, drugs, and violence, not only at younger ages, but in more graphic detail. Children are very impressionable, and many children think these are the norm, and that sex, alcohol, and drugs will make them happy, fulfilled, and popular.

Unfortunately, the opposite is true. Children today, are unhappy, unfulfilled, and always searching for more material things to fill that void.



In his book, The Grace Awakening, Charles Swindoll puts it this way when describing the grace of God,

First, you can expect to gain a greater appreciation for God’s gifts to you and others. What gifts? Several come to mind. The free gift of salvation. The gift of life. The gifts of laughter, of music, of beauty, of friendship, of forgiveness. Those who claim the freedom God offers gain an appreciation for the gifts that come with life.

Second, you can expect to spend less time and energy critical of and concerned about others’ choices. Wouldn’t that be a refreshing relief? When you get a grasp on grace – when you begin to operate in a context of freedom –you become increasingly less petty. You will allow others room to make their own decisions in life, even though you may choose otherwise.

Third, you can expect to become more tolerant and less judgmental. Externals will not mean as much to you. You’ll begin to cultivate a desire for authentic faith rather than endure a religion based on superficial performance. You will find yourself so involved in your own pursuit of grace, you’ll no longer lay guilt trips on those with whom you disagree.

Fourth, you can expect to take a giant step toward maturity. As your world expands, thanks to an awakening of your understanding of grace, your maturity will enlarge. Before your very eyes, new vistas will open. It will be so transforming, you will never be the same.

Isn’t this what we really want for our children? Shouldn’t we be spending our time discovering God’s infinite grace, and teaching that to our children?

But even more than that shouldn’t we be wanting eternal salvation for them? As we all love our children, wouldn’t we want to spend eternity with them, enjoying the many wonders and rewards God has instore for His children?

Do not be afraid to be different.

Do not be afraid to teach your children about the future in Heaven, for Christians.

Do not be afraid to be laughed at, or not accepted by the ways of this world.

Do not be afraid to trust God with those most precious to you, for they are even more precious to our Lord.

The fear of mankind is a snare, but the one who trust in the LORD is protected.                                Proverbs 29:25 (CSB)

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